What is it like to fear love?
I believe that many people are stuck in the same cycle. They yearn for love but don’t know how to
experience it or they want it but don’t know how to receive it.
I believe that people don’t know how to love. They don’t understand what it is to give onto
someone else because they’re afraid. What
does that look like?
They’ve been burned by someone so they are fearful that it will
happen again.
They fear loneliness and so will compromise their true
feelings to be accepted.
They are in relationships and only do them because it’s part
of their life checklist
They blame their partner and find where their partner makes
mistakes
They end up serial dating trying to find this imaginary
cocktail of traits that they think they want but can never quite get right
This creates an interesting reaction…when they finally find
someone that they can love they…
Sabotage (passive aggression, game playing)
Run away (shut down, turn inward, cheat, deny)
Engage with them, but deny them to the world
This is done to protect and hide ourselves. It’s done to guard and cover the gooey inside
that we have.
This is a natural reaction.
The trick is knowing that all the “good ones” are not taken or gay…all
the good ones are the ones you let in.
They are the ones that you choose to dance with.
Now it’s true…not everyone will jive with you…not everyone
will be a good dance partner…not everyone will fit with you…it’s doesn’t mean
that they can’t dance…it just means that they are trying to dance the Lambada
while you’re trying to do the Robot. You’re
line dancing, they’re break dancing…they are on the two step and you’re working
in the Congo Line…whore :-)
Like a broken record.
Jump into them. Be afraid and
face the fear. They may not catch you…they
may let you fall…but that’s the trick. How
else will you learn unless you try? Let
them step on your toes, stumble into their pace…I promise that eventually you’ll
be on the same beat.
That's not always true. I once was talking to/dating someone (whatever you want to call it) and I laid all my cards out for that person. I was really into this person, but I think my assertiveness and knowing that I wanted that person as a more meaningful being in my life ended up scaring them away. It was as if we were vibing, getting along real well, and then that person fell off the face of the earth and I felt as though they began to avoid me.
ReplyDeleteWhat do you have to say about that Psych!?
I have to applaud you anonymous. Applaud you loudly. You made it clear what you wanted, you made it known what dance you were doing and what beat you were counting to. Not many can do that...in fact, hardly any.
ReplyDeleteWhat do I think? I think that they, not you, need to read the blog :)
You see, this is why I write that you need to lay your cards out. Every time. That last paragraph really highlights it...you have to jump...they may let you fall like he did..but you never know that until you try. I can see that it didn't work out well this time...but what if the guy you didn't lay your cards out to, was the one who wanted to win the whole tamale with you?
You just never know. That's love. Be fearful but push through it. Show your cards, dance freely and wait for someone who will catch you. You are the greatest prize after all.
why did you assume it was a female anon?
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