I believe that many marry or get into relationships for all
the wrong reasons. Convenience…family…expectation…outside
influence. They do it because they think
it’s part of the checklist…part of what is meant to happen. Oh you know…I go to school…I find a guy…I
like him…he likes me…we fall into the pattern of “what do I bring home for
dinner” and suddenly the next progressive step is marriage. We do it because we think that’s what’s next.
The problem with this is that I believe many do it without
too much reflection and thought. They do
it without a hunger. They see marriage
or long term relationships as an easy meal…a McDonalds drive thru to satisfy
the craving without much thought.
Now I understand the concept of fast food. It’s easy, convenient and gets the job
done. I can satisfy my craving and fill
my belly… It’s available and it fills our need whether that be cheap, bland or simple. I think that most relationships are like
this. But for me, it is never quit satisfying enough.
The draw and attraction of a sit down meal is the ritual and
sharing of food…the enjoyment of bringing into us food that was made with love
and care. The sensuality of it, the
family of it, the “taking in” of it rather than the “convenience” of it. The sharing of food over candles and wine
will always stump a fast food meal. Yet
we turn to it because it’s easy and there. I believe we need to change our mindset. We need to move from accommodating to
hunting. I want to hunt my food and
share it with my partner…my family. I
want the building of flavors and spices…the mixing of loud noise and dirty
clothes…the heat and steaming of our relationship…not the cheap paper wrap or
cardboard containers. The kind of meal requires work…requires thought and care. The kind of meal that builds to the point of
attacking it like a starving dog at a bone.
This is what I feel a real value meal is. One worked for and shared…not convenient and
given.
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