Which are you?
Intellect vs emotion
Our minds are incredible small. We have the ability to convince ourselves of
anything. We can rationalize and make
things make sense to us…we can psych ourselves up…think logically and make
connections to help us feel safe and comfortable. You see, our minds are soooo freakin
effective that we have the ability to take the smallest information and blow it
up. Take the smallest amount of thought
and think of a million ways to see it…to believe it…to make it bigger.
Here’s your example, you come home and see lipstick on your
husband’s shirt…where does your head go?
You could be married to the guy for years and when you see
that…instantly your head goes haywire.
“who is she?”
“Am I not attractive enough anymore?”
Gents, you know what I’m talking about…you come home and
your girl is just quiet. Sitting there. Silent.
Where does your head go?
“oh damn…”
“what did I do?”
“what is it?”
Get it? Your head
gets in the way. Now I understand it, we
do it to protect ourselves…to ease the blow…it’s natural to blow up
information…but the problem isn’t when you blow up information…it’s when you
only consider that side.
I think we often forget to trust our emotions. We forget that the other side of us is as
powerful and needed. When we blow up the
information by thinking of all the possibilities…it stunts us from moving in
the moment. It stunts us as we strain to
make sense of things and decisions.
Feel too much?
I also feel that people tend to forget their head as
well. They get so caught up in their
emotional drives and pulls that they can’t see straight. Emotional decisions can be in the moment…not
long lasting and often blind us to what is the best choice is for the long
run. They force us to act in the
moment…force us to move.
If you’ve ever been cheated on you know what I’m talking
about…you find out and suddenly you’re cutting your hair, at a club and hooking
up with the first person you can. You
make huge purchases to try and blind and overwhelm the painful feeling you
have.
So what do you do?
I believe that we have one of the greatest human powers
available to us…our ability to make a choice…the ability to make decisions that
are both smart and emotionally fulfilling.
Think about your life in the last 5 years….have you made a
decision that changed your life? Choosing to marry…choosing to take on a new
job…dating that guy… Cheating on that
girl? deciding is our power. This is why I also believe that we have to
make better balanced decisions that are intellectually planned but emotional
fueled.
This is emotional fitness.
Psychological strength.
The ability to find the balance between emotion and
intellect.
We’ve heard this before…psychologically, when I walk through
my decisions and have an emotional drive behind it, I perform the best. Consider this…
A firefighter plans to become a firefighter and does it. Yet his drive to do it is emotional, as he is
willing to save any life at the cost of his own.
A sports star has the ability to score the last minute point…but
unless he is psychologically driven into it, he will miss.
Decide on balance.
Choose to weigh. Plan and drive.
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