Knowledge is a stupid.
As humans, it is an amazing tool. It is something that helps up to measure, build and judge. The problem happens when we then use it to build this image of what perfection looks like and then how we are not that. Sucks right? We end up confusing knowledge for nature and buy into the lie of our own imperfection.
Solution- be nice to yourself. Simple. Be kind to you. Accept that your brain is stupid at times and is judging you without reason.
Take yourself on dates...that's right, date yourself. I'll say it again, DATE YOU. Plan alone time and give the gift of solitude and individual openness. Thinking about dance classes? Cooking classes? Music instrument? Do it, do it, do it!
Often times, we can get caught up in the mindset that we need to find someone, that we need to fulfill the relationship part of our lives...or if we are in a relationship, that we need to share EVERYTHING with them. Although this is true to a point, I believe that we lose sight of who we are in relationships (friendly or romantically) when we don't date ourselves. Give to us. Remind ourselves of how wonderful we are and the gifts that we have.
This is the power of masturbation. I don't necessarily mean sexually, philosophers. I'm not talking about the literal action...but more the time spent to one self. The time given to you for your own self. Your own needs. The underlying action of being alone and in your thoughts and fantasies.
When you take on a new hobby, passion, interest, something! You will find renewed confidence and happiness in who you are. That will enrich relationships, it will remind you what a wonderful being you are and it will help to keep some balance between you and the world. I believe that we need blend who we are in relationships, not get lost in them. Find a balance between you and I. Them and me.
Plus when you date yourself, well....you'll probably always score at the end of the night if you want to...right? :)
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