So many of us have been on dates or met people or have randomly come across something/someone that we feel a little concerned with. Whether it be first dates, new friends or even a decision that we have to make.
For example, you go out on a date and you find out that they smoke marijuana and you don't...or they like to party until they pass out....or they like to pee into empty bottles that they collect on a dresser until one day it falls over and gets all over my rug....
anyways, you decide or talk to your friend or something, and you'll hear something like, "oh....that's a flag!"
ever hear this before? "he does what when he goes out? damn...oh that's a flag..."
I want to talk about flags and how they relate to our lives. Many don't know that I was in the Marine Corps for 7 years (unless you read my first early posts) and while in the Marine Corps you learn a couple things. One of which is this...flags don't tell us to stop shooting, they tell us how to adjust for the wind.
The harder the wind blows, the harder the flag waves, and more we have to adjust in order to hit our target. I believe that people see flags and run away, they see a waving flag and call it quits because it scares them...it worries them...or they don't want to adjust for the wind.
Here's the problem, if you let flags scare you all the time, you'll never hit your target. You'll turn and run, waiting for the "perfect" shot...waiting for your "time"...waiting...waiting...waiting...for the "perfect" shot. This is bullshit. This waiting turns to missing your target over and over again. In fact, it's not even missing, it's not even engaging. You can't wait for the perfect shot, you have to take your shots and continually adjust.
When you see a flag...don't run...take your shot.
...adjust for windage when needed.
But actually we say "that's a RED flag" and I think it refers to dangerous conditions on the race track...not shooting in the Marines... =) just a thought still people can proceed cautiously. Possibly the conditions will improve over time.
ReplyDeleteI think this makes absolute sense. I feel like nowadays we are so quick to turn someone away because a friend we confided in labeled an attribute or sign of something as "bad" because it's almost like we are looking for something wrong in that person. I understand the dating scene is very difficult and we seem to be so scared of putting ourselves out there and being rejected that we will look for any little thing to use as an excuse not to give someone a second chance. People are often nervous trying to make a good first impression, and even then everyone has flaws, so it isn't fair to turn someone away when you "see their flag" and assume you have not placed your flags on display also.
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