I sat in a group discussion where I was surrounded by artists, scientists, therapists and random people that decided to sit down and listen. We began talking about various questions and ideas with really no direction…as we began to talk about death (aside from religious stuff and things) we began to talk about the ideas of answers and open discussion…more though was this idea of needing to know answers.
PSYCH!SENSE question? Is anything worth doing if you will never get an answer or end point?
Now the obvious answer is yes…well…I think so. Many people may argue “hey it’s all about the experience of it….not the answer to it” whereas others would say, “why the hell would you get all worked up into sex without getting the giant ‘O’ at the end of it…”
Many of the science guys would often say the only true way to understanding the world around us is through measurement. As my good friend would often say, “nothing can be proven…it can only be disproven…” ..I often challenge them..it can only be disproven from a calculative perspective..not a reflective and subjective perspective.
Then the artsy peeps would often say, “when I paint I get lost in the moment of creation and nothing else matters other than the experience of it…when it’s over my experience is over and when the art work is done I sometimes miss the operation of it more than the final product.”
PSYCH!SENSE would say, it depends…duh! But because PSYCH!SENSE tries to be gray and the fence sitter in these conversations…the answer is in that statement. We must be willing to find our balance between the two worlds. There are some things in life where you should truly, truly, truly enjoy the experience (sight seeing, a good meal, simple conversation) whereas other things need to have some sort of finite point (orgasm…just being real peeps).
Take the time to find which type of experiences you want or even….what kind of experiences you currently experience. If you always need to know the answer…I challenge you to find something where there is no answer…if you love the flowly artsy side of life…I challenge you to find a finite point.
i wonder if we can engage in both ways, appreciate our experiences on the intellectual as well as subjective levels. 2 for 1 deal!
ReplyDeleteSex often does feel like it is all about the orgasm, but as I think about it, there is a kind of spectrum (or time line) of "finite point"s: the courting process has as its finite point the confirmation of a date; the date has its finite point the goal of scheduling a second date and some kind of easy physical contact...then intimate contact, cloths off, etc. And this spectrum doesn't really end at the orgasm does it? The 'scientific' perspective reveals that this is all part of a larger evolutionary arc: procreation, proliferation of the species, moving genes along etc.
Can we, as we are fully immersed in the sex act, also grasp how we are part of experience immeasurably greater than us that has at its final finite point a cosmic process that began (not ended) with a big bang?
Dave...brilliant. Our goal in life is to find that balance...The difficulty is just that though.
ReplyDeleteI truly like the idea of a spectrum...the idea of finding the rainbow gradation of process. That is exactly my point as well!~ We have been so engrained in this Kantian idea of objective thought we lose the philosophical model of subjective individual experience being as real and measureable as the previous. Enjoy the experience as a whole...not the finite point...
so you're giving me permission to last longer in bed ey? nice...i'll take it! (all 30 seconds of it)