143. Now what?

This is going to be a grade school blog. Get your chocolate milk out, start picking them boogers out of your nose, grab the nearest pig tails and settle down.

Taking responsibility.

I want to open up by talking about why responsibility is so hard. I believe that responsibility tends to be hard because it demands that you face your fear. WHAT!?!? that's right....it is hard because you have to come face to face with fear. YOu have to look fear in the eyes and say, "hey fear! screw you bitch!" well...maybe not like...but you get it :)

Let me tell you a story,

a while back ago I remember eating some nuts (OH GROW UP!).

Anyways, I was eating some nuts that I wasn't supposed to. I was told by my mom as I walked into the kitchen, "hey you are not allowed to eat those because they are for later and you already ate lunch." Did I listen? of course not. When she was washing dishes I ran right up to them and grabbed a hand full before running into the bathroom and hiding in the bathtub (I don't know why). So my mom comes to find me and when she found out that I ate the nuts I got it bad. Damn....

don't we all have stories like that?

But what this did was teach me that everytime I get caught...I get hurt. See how that worked? You got hurt when you got caught or when you took responsibility.

The difference now is that, most of you, are adults now. It's time to take responsiblity and face your fear. There are two things that need to be done when taking responsibility for something.

Number 1. Own up to whatever happened
Number 2. Acknowledge them and their feelings
Number 3. Do something about it

The difficulty is that many people don't do the second step. Many get "stuck" on the first one, call it the day and go have a beer. WRONG!

You must be willing to fess up, "Yes mom I did eat the nuts....I'm sorry" then "I know you told me not to...but I did it anyways and I'm sure that angered you" and finally, "Want me to go buy you new ones?" now granted as a child it's different but try and focus on your ability to use these three steps as an adult now...the honest truth is that you may not be able to...it's hard. You must face your fear.

Don't be scared anymore...if you eat the nuts...have the courage to grow a pair.