"My girl always does things for me like cook and clean and sometimes I don't know how to make it up to her. She will do my laundry and even iron my clothes in the morning. The thing is that I feel really bad that she does all of this stuff. I want her to stop doing so many things for me because it makes me feel uncomfortable. How can I feel better about this? and how can I get her to stop doing it so much?"
ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?!!?
HA! Does she have a sister? a cousin? how about a young grandma? been a long times since I've had some grandma action :)
Anyways...here's the thing...I wonder if you're feeling inadequate? not up to par with what she is doing? Perhaps you feel you don't deserve it? or deserve to be treated so well? There are a million possible questions that can be asked in return so it's important for you to keep your radar up.
You CANNOT make anyone do anything. SURPRISE! Sure I want the donut lady to add a bit of sprinkled meth on my donut for that extra kick (kidding!) but I can't force her to do it. That's not how it works. Perhaps that is who she is...perhaps who she is is a natural caretaker that believes in giving to others and "taking care of her man"
I can simply offer this advice. If you feel that bad about it...instead of making her stop, why not even the playing field? You can increase the things you do for her. You say that she cooks for you...I would instead get up earlier and make her a meal every so often, you say that she irons for you, I would say go out and buy her new lotion or body wash stuff, you say she does your laundry, then ask to stick a finger in .....well....that would be more for you....
what I'm saying is that instead of asking one person to change and stop, which you absolutely should try, try to even the playing field by doing things in return for her. Your relationship will thrive, your love will grow and your hearts will connect...
...then try the finger thing ;)
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