130. Swingin' My Stick

"Do guys have to settle down? Why can't they simply live free and frollic?

can i man wonder the rest of his life and just having girlfriends? Does a man always have to settle down...i feel like im not meant for marriage...just random girlfriends or random sex"


Often times when people ask me questions in generalities I like to challenge them to make it personal. The real question then becomes:

"Do I have to settle down? Why can't I simply live free and frollic?" notice how in his question he actually wrote, "can i man wonder the..." he was already asking from his perspective...the ol' freudian slip...anyways...

Notice how this simple change will almost create a different feeling and one that is a bit more "in your face" with an answer. This is important for everyone. Our ability to take something, make it personal, chew on it and mold it into something new and different. With that said...

I once wrote about the idea about "levels of men". First off, there is nothing wrong with wanting to live free and frollic. Remember...nothing you feel or experience is bad....only what you do with it...and how it affects others.

No, you do not have to settle down. This is your journey. I will speak from my own experience. I wrote about "levels of men" before and the idea that we must be willing to look at ourselves and decide the "level of man" you want to be.

For example, What Tiger Woods did "on the animal man scope" is not wrong. He was being the animal man. He is doing what evolution has taught him to do...screw, screw, screw, swing big sticks, play golf and screw.

So if that's the animal man...what's the other type? (I'M GLAD I ASKED MYSELF)

There are the spiritual men and the animal men. You can see the difference here. The animal will do what he feels and play and frollic...the spiritual man will instead rise above his instinct and be a different level of man. Granted, many of our women want us to ravage them and tear into them...they want to feel the animal man...but often times it takes the spiritual man to get them to that point.

The spiritual man will invest in something more than physical lust and drive...he will make his body and cravings his slave and resist the urge to break the bond that he has developed with the woman of his life...it is about investment and restraint

The animal man is about living through natural drives and pushes. The one that punches first and asks later...the gun tottin, heavy bearded, strong handed man who gives no care to others than his own drives and desires.

The spiritual man is different. He is the balance of animal and spirit. He is the one that strives for more of a connection, more of a hold with someone. He will pop you in the face and kick you in the groin if you mess with him or his family. He will kiss you lightly in them morning and have you screamin' in the evening ;)

The spiritual male is the one that suffers through the pain of controlling his urges...he does not easily give into cravings...he lets them pain him knowing that what he gets in return is true spirituality, self control and love...control your urges...do not be enslaved by them...He is a different level of man. A different level of person. The balance between animal and spirit.

This is the balance though, you must be willing to balance out your spiritual man and animal man. Live the spiritual life, and when you are with your love...."tear into that pootang!!!" Be the animal. This is the balance. If you do not find balance for your animal he will break loose on the first piece of jungle-swingin'-booty-tang that walks by.

Control your animal...ravage your woman...love hard...live the soulful existence...bare the pain...feel the sweet suffering...

and until you find the woman of your life...screw, screw, swing big sticks, play golf and screw.