128. I don't exist

"Dear Sexy Blogger man,
Let me first start by saying how sexy you are :) I love how you write and can feel how much you really care about others. Here's what's going on in my life. I've been dating the same guy for about 2 months. It's going really, really good. My only problem is that he is always on his phone when were together. I spoke to myself about what you may say and first approached him about it and spoke to him. His response was, 'well I'm still with you' I kinda accepted that because he is. I just don't feel like it's right. I feel almost annoyed and frustrated because I don't have his full attention, am I just being sensitive? What is going on with me?

-Charles"

....ya know charles...sigh...when you opened up with "how sexy you are" I could feel myself start to smile because I thought, "bam!!! the whole point of this blog was to meet sexy, smart women..." then I read you had a boyfriend and I sank a bit...then I read your name was Charles....DAMMIT! Not that you were hitting on me...but I realized right there...I send off a gay vibe. Dammit. Not that it matters...other then me not being gay....lets move on

I have to admit, I am in this same boat with you. I used to be the one on the phone trying to work, read emails, reply to others...etc...sigh. It was horrible because often times I was with friends that found it rude.

PSYCH!SENSE question: is it rude to be playing on your phone when you're with company

I will start with this. Yes and No. I say yes because often times our physical presence isn't enough for two people to be with one another. Imagine you and your girl (or guy in this case) are going at it...BAM BAM BAM then you ask, "are you liking it?" and she says, "oh yeah I am...do you think I should take a salsa classes?"

See it? random! She is not in the moment...she may be physically with you but not completely with you. You are right to feel annoyed and frustrated because he should be giving you the time you deserve. PSYCH!SENSE tells us that when someone is playing on their phone...they would rather be doing "that" than being with you. Can you hear the argument??? "but I'm with him/her...so I'm doing both...what's the big deal?" Remember mr. miyagi from the original karate kid? he said,

"Daniel san, street...walk left side road- safe....walk right side road- safe....walk middle sooner or later - *SQUEEEK just like grape" If you do something, do it with your whole heart...do it full souled do it and experience it with your all. Trying to spread yourself across the world and conversations will stretch you out making you weaker and not completely present for anyone. If someone is willing to sit with you and give you their whole and all attention...give it back. They deserve it.

I would tell him again how frustrated you are and if he needs to check his phone let him know that he can check it once every hour or so just quickly ...but that's it. No full on chatting, no messaging or writing emails...

You may be sensitive....but so what? The only real thing in life is how we feel...what we experience from an individual perspective.