95. My Secret Identity

Now we all have different lives...we have our home life, our night life, our day job life and if you're like me, your porn career.

I mention this because many of us have heard the idea of "never bring your work home with you" and this is true...to a point. I feel as if parts of work and other lives we have, can be mixed with one another creating a better person...what do you mean?

take for instance a porn star. Most likely...over the course of some years they've probably learned a trick or two that when he comes home to you...well..ya know..Boom Chicka Wawa (meant to be porn music). He can have someone doing a cleveland steamer, brown logger, dirty sanchez, hot tamale, with a little danza slap and a side of a rolling burnout, seedy sam and rosy palmer before you even hit the pillow.

or take the coffee shop owner...who after work instead of going home directly will try a new type of coffee shop...perhaps Cafe Roule (where the girls are as fun as coffee...dark but nice...that was a bad joke, geez...I must be tired or something). so if the new coffee shop owner would take the time to explore other coffee shops they would be doing research into what makes these other ones successful.

Food staff and customer service have a similar trait...they have the built in/learned ability to keep and hold conversation with anyone. They are personable...That's an amazing talent right there...sometimes no matter how UGH you feel...if you find a really good customer service person..they can brighten your day. They do it natural at times...it just pops out.

Our jobs have created skills in us that others hardly notice. If you work it right you can use those skills to help others and at the same time make great changes in peoples' lives and can enrich your job.

It is when you absolutely shut off your job from coming home with you that you end up building stress and resentment. People take pictures of their kids to work with them because it's a reminder why you do what you do, it's helps to keep you on task, and in a way you are unconsciously blending your home and work together to make it better.

If you're a doctor you give slight medical advice (although not allowed) to a stranger when you're off duty. If you're into insurance, when you go home you try and help a friend do that work so they don't get screwed. Maybe you work in an office but have to work with people all day, so you exhibit courtesy and organization to others, if you're a dentist and someone asks for an opinion you consider offering it. Allow parts of your job to come out- recognize what you can offer to the world who doesn't hold your job. It is only through this that you can be happier with life and work and ultimately happier with what you do.