How many people have you loved in your life time? Now i'm not talking about friends, or family or even elementary school yard love...but totally loved? if done correctly...not many.
Can you still feel the love of your first boyfriend or girlfriend? think about it...dig into your mind and try and remember the good things about your first love...you can feel them right? but at the same time you can feel the pain they left in us when they/we broke up. They stand in our minds because this was a time of transition...it was a time when we were developing and growing and our minds have that person as part of our development, puberty of not...ohhh...no wonder I can remember my grandfather putting me on his knee(?) so often. gross.
PSYCH!SENSE question: Do you believe that there is just one love for you out there?
Remember when that curly hair, frankenstein looking, acne ridden, nose picking bed wetter who broke your heart? you feel it...and for days/weeks/months later you feel so bad that all you can think about is..."i'll never find another one again!!...ill be lonely forever!!...i'm gonna sleep with his dad just to piss him off (maybe not that extreme...unless your from the show 'the hills' in which case go f-yourself...what was I talking about...)" ..we've all been there...the intense pain that they brought us but only because of the intense love we once felt for them.
Many people I have been talking to have told me, "TRUE love...you only get once or twice...the rest are just practice..."
PSYCH!SENSE tells us that for man...our ability to want full term and deep committment and relationship are hard...too hard...because we always have to spread the seed and strive for the "better" thing...or in many guys cases...the "easy" thing. /sigh. How stupid can we be? the drive for more and more only leads to more stress gents...read my blog on that one...as like other posts I only challenge you to consider going against your instincts...I challenge you to be with your woman...fully and wholly...completely and unafraid. Go against instinct...(p.s. it's hard)
OH NO ladies you are not off the hook...they strive for relationship and communication. So they will many times force themselves to be in relationships with guys that are just horrible..just plain stupid for them simply because the woman feels as if she can help the "bad boy" "guide him right" "live off his excitement" and drive for life...just until she realizes..."oh snap...you really do suck and everyone around me was right." I challenge you with the opposite, consider what your friends are telling you, consider their opinion and take the time to step back for, if only moments, and think about him and your relationship or are you just with him because people are telling you not to and you want to "fix" him.
ultimately, our growth will occur on deeper levels with those we spend more time with. We will blossom into more complete people when we find one to share our stories with, our lives with and our love with. The difficulty is not always having the luck to find that one person to whom we can have it with. Is there more than one person out there for you? yes but it depends.
that reminds me, there's a new episode of "The Hills" on tonight
ReplyDelete- looking for love, is like looking for a lost item until you find it... it's always in the last place you look (because once you have found it, there is no need to look any further)
- and then when you find it, but it falls apart to find yourself a 42 year old single lady,
well then obviously you found the wrong one and need to keep looking... unless of course you decide you don't need it
bravo juanton soop. Now that was a very nicely written statement...no need to look any further.
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