102. Birthday Girl Complex

well....hello all my wonderful readers...if I have any left....I realize I have taken a hiatus for quite a couple weeks..but man...I have been busy like no other!!!! Seriously..think I need a vacation...

This blog topic was given to me by a wonderful colleague/friend/cool guy named Mike K. We met up for breakfast at a local mom and pop shop with the best blueberry pancakes in pasadena. I had arrived at about 7:45 and began to have a cup of coffee and wait...at about 8 o clock I see him walk out to the front and say, "hey...i've been here for about 15 minutes...I had no idea you were inside!"

PSYCH!SENSE question: Are you 15 minutes early or 15 minutes late?

Now let's build into this one...for now let's take out of the equation some wo/men that take like take 2 hours to get ready...geez..really? two hours...what the hell takes so long anyways but thats a different blog topic ...Im worried about writing that one out of fear of not having any dates...hmm..not like i'm getting much action there anyways..

So anyways...what does your show up time say about you? You guys ever hear that stupid song lyics, "the party don't start....till I walk in"

Explained by Mike, PSYCH!SENSE tells me that those who are "fashionably late" may have an interesting control issue. I would go to say that those who are "fashionably late" tend to be those that have some sort of attention deficiency. Now that's crazy...

True Story: I once was invited to a birthday dinner at a fancy restaurant in Downtown LA. The invite said, 5:30. I figure, "hey I should go early...get parking...there's traffic blah blah blah..." SO I get there about 5:15. I walk in and yep..there was no one there. SO I decided..."well I don't want to be the loser sitting there waiting...i'm gonna go to the bar..have a drink..." It's now like...6:30...I look over and see no one. WTF!!?! 7:00 o clock runs around...I ask the host if anyone has showed up and no one has...except me. Finally at like 8:00 some people show up and sit at my friends table...So I join them and make conversation...it rolls around to 8:30. I'VE BEEN THERE FOR 3 HOURS NOW!!! She calls one of them and on speaker says, "is everyone there?...can I show up yet?"

I screamed at her!!

"BIOTCH I'VE BEEN HERE ALL FREAKIN NIGHT HO!!"....in my head of course.

I mean she was hot. But what I really said was,

"yeah we're all here..come over sweetie."

At about 9:00 I get annoyed and just leave. Never saw her.

I call it the "birthday girl complex" (needing to have the attention and control...hehe)

You guys ever go to a party late or "fashionably late" and right when you walk in people are like, "HEY!!!!...IT'S YOU...BLAH BLAH BLAH...CAN I LICk YOUR TOES....OH MY GOD YOU CAME!"

it's a nice feeling right? But those that show up early...well- are usually the ones that are saying those things to someone else. Instead of getting that same welcome...they are usually the one's welcoming the "birthday girl complex" person. Even those that show up ON TIME will probably be there alone!! hahaha

Now isn't weird that we have all have a time for party but know that guests will not show up on time? right? we say, "hey the party starts at 6:00....but no one will get there until 7" It's as if the guests don't want to fit into the box of controlled time...but instead will show up when they want. Those that show up late are showing their "birthday girl complex"

Again that's okay...but what do you do? do you show up 15 mins early and wait...or do you show up 15 mins late (which could be translated to like 1 or 2 hours) so that everyone is there and you get the big welcome from everyone?

How much do you feel that you need to have people recognize your arrival? I mean sure, it's nice to know that people "cheer" and are excited to see you, we all enjoy it...and sure maybe you had something to do before hand...but ultimately how much of it is your wanting to be the one cheered for as oppose to the one cheering for others?

My friend Rob tells me that he is always early or on time, "I end up being the first one there...alone...not even the person throwing the party is there sometimes..." He tells me that he ends up doing the welcoming but doesn't really feel bothered by it because of his knowing that he did his part as the invited guest. He was on time. Consider what it says about your personality...this is a blog coming soon...but perhaps his showing up on time and early tells me that 1. he's probably OCD and 2. he someone that you can rely on.

Whereas the one that will consistently show up late may end up being the person that will flake, be attention whores, show the "birthday girl complex" or not bring a gift because they know no one saw them walk in. Watch me call them if I ever get stranded...oh wait...by the time they show up i'll be home after walking there.