89. I do you, you do me, you do me- while you do he

This one is kinda hard to explain in wirting but I will do my very best to try and explain it. This was done at a random group meeting at:

Cafe Roule (where the staff is half as good as the coffee!...wait...what?)

anyways...here is what we spoke about. Before you go on reader you must think about your answer to these two questions:...it's kinda a survey

READ THESE BELOW BEFORE YOU READ MORE....GIVE YOUR ANSWERS!
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1. Are you okay with having your partner imagine someone else when you're having sex?

POSSIBLE ANSWERS: YES or NO (IF YOU ANSWER...'IT DEPENDS' THAT'S A YES ANSWER)

If you are having sex with your partner and when you finish your partner rolls over and says, "hey _____ when we were having sex right now I imagined you as ____"

for example: Hey Robert, when we were having sex right now I imagined you as Brad Pitt

is this okay for you? here are the rules though. It cannot be with someone familiar...meaing a best friend, or close relative...lets say it's with an actor

PSYCH!SENSE question...would you be okay with your partner imagining that s/he is doing someone else at times?


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2. Would you rather have your partner say, "Hey ______ I kinda have fallen in love with my friend ______ , I'm not going to sleep with ________ because I still want to be with you."

POSSIBLE ANSWERS: I would rather have him physically sleep with someone over emotionally fall for someone

For example: "Hey Jessica I kinda have fallen in love with my friend Maria, I'm not going to sleep with Maria because I still want to be with you"

or would you rather them say, "Hey _____ I got really really trashed that night a week ago and had sex with __________, but i'll never talk to her again and it's over."

For exampe: "Hey Jessica I got really really trashed that night a week ago and had sex with Maria, but i'll never talk to her again and it's over"

PSYCH!SENSE question...would you rather your partner emotionally cheat on you or physically cheat on you?
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think about it...

think about it...

think about it...

seriously...think about it...





DO NOT READ THE ANSWERS BELOW UNTIL YOU DECIDE WHICH TWO YOU WOULD CHOOSE


OKAY!!! so here are the answers....

I asked 15 people in a group and of the answers- here is what I found...which I didn't think I would find


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YES, it's okay to imagine another person while having sex
I'd rather my partner emotionally cheat on me than physically cheat

VERSUS

No to imagine another person while we're having sex
I'd rather my partner physically cheat on me than emotionally cheat on me

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in other words...those that said yes to imagine another also said i'd rather them emotionally cheat than physically cheat....

wild right? there were exceptions of course..2 peole had mixed answers which I can get into later...but amazing to think how the emotional people felt similar in both cases when those who were not as emotional felt another way...yes, yes, yes...we all know that but try and see where your answers fall in and match

Here was the reasoning from the group:

those who answered the top one said, "I do it all the time...sometimes when you have a lot of sex with your partner things kinda die down..so you think of someone else to keep it going...it's okay because you're with him/her but at times...not all the time...you let your head run off to brad pitt or angelina jolie....it's normal"

they also said,

"I'd rather my b/f or g/f emotionally fall for someone else and not do anything about it..because I feel as if they respect our relationship and me. Because of our relationship they will not physically do anything despite having a crush on someone...it's about having respect for eachother"

Here was the reasoning from the second group:

"when we're having sex...I need to know that he's mentally attached to me...I need to know that he is having sex with me and not an image or fantasy of another woman...our intimate time is with one another..not an actress or actor."

They also said,

"I'd rather them get drunk and in a drunken stupor have sex with someone than emotionally fall for someone else....if there is emotion attached they are more likely to leave...if it was just a fuck...then i'll give them crap for it...but we could move on."

Ultimately, those that said it's okay to imagine another person in bed were males and males would prefer for their woman to emotionally fall for another first rather than sleep with them.

PSYCH!SENSE tells us that this is normal for guys...guys tend to be less emotional and as such will often allow their minds to wander to other women...it's in our biology...its in our evolution...men were designed to plant seeds and continue the generations...we are screwing machines..yes, I know..gross..but get over it..we have a drive to screw anything that walks if in the right circumstances and yes, I can hear some of my philosophers screaming...not all guys will mess around physically (we can talk about what a higher level man does though...he doesn't get caught...kidding)

men tend to be more physical and less emotional. It's not a bad thing its just biology and our evolution...this is why men develop bigger muscles and physically mature faster than women...we had to back in the day in order to "kill pig and feed family."

women being more emotional would find it harder to hear that her man is thinking of another and would also find it hard to hear that he is fallign for another woman emotionally despite his not doing anything with her. It's as if the female focus is on relationship, communication and stability. The female essence wants her partner full focused and gravitated towads her. She will dedicate herself to family, love, partnership and ass kicking of any woman who tries to take her man....women are absolutely amazing that way...full of love and dedication for the one she loves...

women tend to be more emotional and less physical. Again, it's not a bad thing its just biology and our evolution...that's why you can have deep conversations about life and the world at age 12 while we are still picking our noses trying to keep up with you.

Last PSYCH!SENSE point:
We men tend to be "in the world" what does that mean Blog guy? look at our biology..our ding dongs are in the world...if naked you see our junk...we are part of the outside physical world whereas women have their biology inside their body. They are more "on the inside" as their sexual organs are inside. get it? men are "in the world" as our thangs hang out and women are more emotional and internally based as their sexual organs are inside themselves and not in the world.

gentlemen...if you have a good partner....be good to them and they will open the world to you.
ladies....if you have a good partner...take care of them and allow them to enter your world...and screw them all the time :)