I think I was just driving along one day when I came upon this idea...oh wait I remember now...it was when I had left a patient's house and he was telling me about having different personalities with different people. SO here we are...
PSYCH!SENSE question...Can you have the same personality with different groups of friends?
So the breakdown is this...I realize that we must have a certain sense of courtesy and professionalism at work and around maybe porn shops...but what about your friends?
Pushing that aside think about your groups of friends...you have those from the neighborhood, those from high school, from college, from bars, from where ever you met them...do you change who you are as a person when you are around those groups?
I had one woman who said, "I'm the same around all my friends..I go out and be me...I party with everyone!....even my mom" hahahah...that's hilarious...PSYCH!SENSE would tell me that she has the ability to be that much more individual than others. Perhaps her ability to stay uniquely her is because she's older? or has cut through all the crap of life by being just her.
For example, I know people that will say whatever they want, do what they like in front of friends as well as in front of parents...now i'm not talking about full frontal nudity..but...maybe they would? The next question would go to the idea of being courteous to other people in life.
My mind goes to one of my friends where we always get together to eat Korean BBQ...now I could do that will all my friends...but our relationship has been built upon the backs of slave serving korean waitresses that bring us loads of meat...see my point? this is our relationship to one another...trying bbq places. I suppose based upon the relationship and context to which you know the person...your personality and ideas too change. I suppose I challenge you ...and me....to take the time to try and find the same personality with everyone...
I think you're ultimately the same person but depending on which group of friends of people you're around there are slight variations in your personality. It makes total sense that you would act a certain way around long time friends and a different way around colleagues and superiors. But it does depend on the person as to how true you stay to yourself
ReplyDeleteOne personality (maybe a split personality, but still your one personality) makes sense.
ReplyDeletebut you choose to adjust your behavior depending on who is in your environment. you choose how much of your personality you are willing to share with different people.
So what we are saying is that our ability to be ourselves is always under control? Do we really choose how much of our personality comes out...really? we simply decide to change how much we give to each person? Totally a blog topic..why can we not allow ourselves to be full and complete with our personalities with everyone? (minus the supervisors and places of employment...unless you're a pole dancer)
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't say that it's always under control, but the majority of the time it is under control. We don't always feel completely comfortable with our significant other or certain people to show all of our true colors. It's almost like you test the waters with each group of people to see how much you can get away with. With some people you keep testing until you realize that they just might stick around regardless of what random/unusual thing comes from you.
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