81. Mission Accomplished

This is a blog first!!!! I was recently sent a request about a situation with one of my readers. I think this is an amazing idea!!! So I will also open up this possibility to others...I encourage you to ask questions that I can blog about it and that the readers can then respond to help with whatever is going on. Brilliant...here's the question....modified of course!

she writes:

Dear sexy guy,
why is it that with your superior intellect and education you do not know what a plethora is...

j/k

anyways:

"Us wives are acused of nagging from time to time. Is it considered nagging when the husband isn't keeping up with his chores and you the wife has to constantly bring them up to the husbands attention? For example I cleaned out the girls baby clothes. It filled a huge trash bag. This isnt stuff that they are ever going to wear again. I asked him to please put them up in the attic. The bag is to heavy for me to carry up the stairs. THAT WAS 2 WEEKS AGO! They have been sitting on the kitchen floor. He has even stepped over it a couple of times. And he never remembers to take out the trash I have to remind him the night before and sometimes he still forgets. Maybe we wouldnt nag if the men would take care of business. What do you think?"

WE ALL HAVE MISSIONS...(as marine corps memories flood me)

Let's be real here...yes it is nagging. It is, plain and simple. I want to try and think about this past the question though. We must all be willing to look past the problem, as images of that movie with robin williams pops up in my head...the one where he's a doctor?...nvm...anyways...it sounds as if he is not respecting your home in a way that YOU find it necessary to do so. He goes to work...and you stay at home taking care of the kids...cleaning...cooking..etc..but he leaves daily without showing you the love that you need to feel from him in regards to the things that you need. Lets talk about the masculine energy....

Men will find themselves in the "do mode" often. They are totally focused, intent on getting a task done. They will do whatever it takes for mission accomplishment. They are sooooo intent on getting it done that questions...breaks...jokes are just not going to be responded to...it's like when they are really into a game or movie...you cannot break them because they are absolutely focused on the butts of other players..I mean...the game and score...in fact they zombified!! except if you strip down and show them the goods. Because let me real again...we're guys. Anyways...
He is so focused on his life mission...this is good. He makes money for the family...his priority is go to work..come home...play with the kids...then play with the wife (you're welcome).....your mission may be to clean up the house, make sure the kids are good, and in this case..organize the house with the trash being thrown out and the clothes being stored away.

Here's the thing...his mission and your mission do match in some ways...but not in all ways (which is okay). He is not reflecting enough on his need to think about your purpose as his wife. In other words....

Lets say it's dinner time. Your mission and goal is to make a plate of food. His mission and goal is to eat the food. As you are cooking though you try and reach up to get a big bowl to mix things into but you can't reach it.

you have two choices:
You can get a chair to stand up and reach it...
or he can come over and grab it for you...

if you go with number one you have to expend some effort...yes...you have to do it in order to accomplish your mission and in turn his...
if you go with number two he will have to understand that he must do it for your mission and his mission to be complete...

I would try and make sure that he understands how important it is for him to reflect and focus on some of the things that are part of your mission and goals. Also...check yourself with him as well...are you being reflective to what is important in his mission and goal? perhaps taking out the trash isn't part of his plan...but perhaps if you held out the "goods" for a few hours ...or perhaps put yourself on a stick for him to follow as you stroll out to the trash can he would get the point. HA!