Your problem?
You are too busy focusing on the feelings of tomorrow to acknowledge the feelings of today.
The solution?
Stop it.
People get caught up in the day to day moment of thinking about their plans for tomorrow. They get caught up in the questions of "who will pick up the kids..." or "what will I make for dinner..." or "what will they think if I do...."
This breeds anxiety, stress and self anger. A holding of yourself to expectations for things that have not come to pass yet. Ever become stressed out for all the things that have to be done this week? Sure...we all have. But the difference is that you should not allow your future expectations and feelings of stress keep you from smiling in the moment. Tomorrow doesn't fuckin' matter. Today is your life. Now is your chance. And every moment between breaths is your opportunity to do different...feel different and be different.
I couldn't tell you how many people have told me that while on vacation, their heads are thinking about work. That while making love to their girl, they can't pull out and be in the moment with her. You are too busy living in the future. You are too caught up in the "need to do" and the "has to be done" that you never let yourself be.
This is living in the "what if" world.
"what if I don't turn in this report on time"
"what if I can't make it to work because of traffic"
"what if I don't call her in two days and she dumps me"
This is all living in the future...in the "what if" world and it drives you nuts...stresses you out and drains your happy fuel. Let all things fall as they will. Do not aim to control or hold, which many people do when they plan and live in the future. Do not strive to have every moment penned out and set. Allow flexibility, movement and breath.
Stop. Breathe. And just be.
I like this one psych, I was a big practitioner of this. I always made plans and never enjoyed the moment. Even day dreaming the "what if I wan the lotto",before I knew it I was getting upset cuz I had not won the lotto and then I would focus on shit I did not have, then I would focuz on shit others had and I did not. Without knowing it I was driving myself into a very anxious and depressed state... Living in the "what if" can have a snow ball affect on you and make u focus on all kinds of bad shit. Just breath and remember to look around yourself cuz chances are you'll find something that will make u smile and refocus yourself in the now... Well that's what has been working for me.
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