171. To be or not to be

In my practice I run across four common questions that they look to me to answer for them.  

who am I

where do I come from

what is my purpose

where am I going

Unfortunately, if you are reading this right now...know that you will be disappointed...I don't know- but to be honest...even if I did, I probably wouldn't tell anyone that would spend time to read this blog ;-)

here's the thing, if you are too busy trying to find the answers to these things...you are too busy to live any of them.  What does that mean?  That means that you have to learn how to "stop existing" and "start living"

When I practice, I tell people the importance of not just narrating their life and telling me memories and stories, but instead to start talking to me about the experience of it.  That is the difference...when I recall a memory, I'm only reminding myself of that story...not of the emotional connection to it.

Consider music, remember the song, "baby got back"  of course you do...it was at every pre-pubescent dance, every love making session you had and every frat party thereafter....but it's not necessarily the song that we remember as we can remember the enjoyment and energy we felt when we hear/heard it come on at that dance.  When you recall that song- it is usually situated around an experience.

Although we all crave answers to those questions first written...my only suggestion is that if you must find the answers to those....seek the experience of the search first...find what makes you smile in searching for those answers....

This is the difference between living and existing.  When you live, you are always moving, you are seeking nectar, breathing in sea salted air and pine filled trees...you are open....when you exist you shut down all else but that which you seek....when you exist the journey means nothing so long as you get the answer or object that you look for...you are not moving or growing, you are stunted, a fractured moment never content.  

In searching for answers...seek the experience and life....not the existence or answer.  Seek nectar.