Here is your cliche moment from Psych!
Today is not it. Everything you are doing right now...in this moment...this time that you are reading this...everything is all occurring because of what you did yesterday and the day before that. All chapters before this one led you to this exact moment of reading this blog. Take a moment to think about that.
Somehow you learned about this blog...somehow your life took you in a direction that either led you to meet me, meet a friend or family member that told you to come here. Perhaps you only knew that friend from going to college with them. Perhaps you only went to that college because you didn't get into your first choice or second or third...or perhaps it was your first choice. The point is that your life right now has all been a series of events that has brought you to this moment in time. To this spot. Wild.
I would even argue that any of those choices in your life could have been changed, resulting in you never coming here or finding this.
That means that everything we've done from the past has brought us to today. In turn, everything that we do today and the choices we make, the decisions we scribe to, the hearts we break, the love we make only lead us to tomorrow.
Think of your current romantic relationships. When I reflect on my future wife I can't help but think about every step that it took for her to choose me.
I realize that every break up I've had...every tear I've shed and every lonely moment in my life was needed so that I would be the perfect match for her. I learned from those break ups where I needed to grow...I learned from the anger I've had towards myself was needed for me to stretch and become the person that I needed to be.
Every love letter that was written was merely practice for the ones that I would write you one day. Every romantic comedy I saw was meant to be my training ground for our own love story. Every poetic verse, love song or soft moment in my life helped me to be the person that fit you just right. Today. My life's timing has met your life's timing.
But this isn't just about love...it's about life. Everything that you are today only happened because of who you were yesterday. Read that again.
It's not about thinking of past relationships or experiences, good or bad, as stepping stones to who you are today...it's about accepting that each step was the most important step of your life because it led you to where you are today.
Each decision, every break up, every angry moment, every thought of failure and pain needed to occur in order for you to know who you are and what you are capable of. Your ability to read this now tells me that you have succeeded. Tells me that you have overcome obstacles and life challenges that have slapped you around but not kept you down.
I urge you to continue pushing. To remind yourself daily that your actions right now are needed to make your future self who they are. To own that the decisions you make today will form the foundation and basis of who you are tomorrow.
For me...I don't want to ask what will my life look like in 10 years. I want to ask myself, what kind of life did I live...to be who I am today.
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